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Ricky Spencer's avatar

Wonderfully written! I also second you on the part about chores, because boredom often leads to more thoughts, which leads to more creativity.

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Alan Furth (AKA Alexis Vale)'s avatar

Thank you so much, Unc! Yes, exactly, boredom often gets a bad rap, but it can be the secret ingredient for creativity. It’s usually where the best ideas hide, just waiting to be discovered. So glad you resonated with that part!

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Geordie Bull's avatar

Great article. I experienced this yesterday when I decided to go for a run without my phone. It felt rebellious, and a little scary, which is alarming! Going to try to leave my phone behind more often.

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Alan Furth (AKA Alexis Vale)'s avatar

Wow, Geordie, I love that you experienced a similar epiphany around the same time I did. Synchronicity really is a thing, isn’t it? 😊 Let’s both keep leaving the phone behind and see what unfolds!

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VedicSoul's avatar

Yes that's a fine read..

Thank you 🙏

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Alan Furth (AKA Alexis Vale)'s avatar

Thank you, VedicSoul! Glad it resonates

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Genevieve's avatar

I love that you took the time to write this at such length. I wish you could post it to everyone in the whole world who uses a phone, at least to those who would take the time to read it! I'm with you from the start: I never take my phone with me when I walk the dogs - and never been tempted to change my mind despite accidents (which always happen to me - they're puppies - not them!). For many years I refused to own a phone, which as you can imagine, became simply stubborn and wildly impractical. I too have a recent example of the energetics of phone use: we went to a great concert the other day: Kasey Chambers. The energy in the room, she's a fabulous showman (person) was high and vibrant. Near the end, when she sang one of her soppy songs, she encouraged everyone to take out their phones, said they could video no problem, and please shine the torch and wave it around (her drummer took video from their end). But it was astonishing to sit there and after the first 60 seconds, feel the energy completely drain out of the room, as many people's attention focused into their screens, and away from the flow between themselves and the band. It was no longer a field of energy with integrity and power: it felt eviscerated, distracted and compartmentalized. It felt bleached of all colour. It was shocking. and sad. and disturbing.

I love your suggestions for practicing the opposite, practicing engagement, in mundane ways: profound.

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Alan Furth (AKA Alexis Vale)'s avatar

Genevieve, your comment was so powerful and so perfectly captured what I’ve always felt about smartphones and live music that I had to restack it. That moment you described—the energy draining from the room—really brings home the cost of our digital habits. Thank you for sharing your experience so vividly. It was too good not to share!

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Raymond Ebanks's avatar

Great read! Our phones connected to us at all times has become a norm. They're like extensions of us now, another appendage. Mindfulness and being present is rebellion against distraction!

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